Something I’ve realised recently is that shame and mental health go hand in hand. When you suffer from bad mental health. You always, in my experience, suffer from Shame.
Shame that others will find out what state your mental health is in.
Shame that they will find out what caused your bad mental health. Especially if like me it was caused through abuse.
Shame that you can’t cope with life the way everyone else does.
Why should you feel like this?
It’s because mental health is still taboo.
People still don’t like admitting it or accepting that friends or family members suffer from it.
Even the government add to this. In the past they hid mental health units away in the wilds somewhere and now they have care in the community which has caused publicity around extreme cases. Normally involving violence. If like me part of your mental health issue revolves around violence. Then you see the looks folk give you when they discover this. making your shame even worse.
So please if someone you know has mental health issues. Don’t treat them differently, go see them, let them know that your friendship won’t be affected by their health.
Show them you do care and will still be around.
Please please never make them feel worse about their mental health.