I am sat watching this programme and I’m stunned! The BBC are supposed to be an independent entity that reports items with NO BIAS!
This programme is showing so much bias toward the better together campaign its disgusting!!!!
I will vote yes for independence! However I admit there are many risks, many unknowns and EVERYONE taking part in this debate guesstimation of what might happen. Scotland deserves to decide its own destiny. At the moment they don’t. Scottish destiny is decided by Westminster.
There’s also the fact that in my opinion Scotland is held back by links with the English. They are held back by a Westminster government who believe they are a world power. Such outdated believes that we can no longer afford!
Scotland wants to be a nuclear free zone. We don’t need or want a nuclear deterrent. We are not a world super power but a small vital nation that would prosper when we stopped funding wars that we don’t want to be part of! Can’t afford to be part of.
Scotland will not only prosper as an independent country but would thrive becoming financially more productive than we are in this outdated union!
The BBC showed little/no part of this side to the argument. They must be funded by the Con-Dem coalition.
Btw Con-Dem is an appropriate tittle for a government that is destroying what little good the UK had.
Rant over, good night all
When your abused as a child, I don’t think the type of abuse is relevant. You learn very early on that the secret must be kept. No one can know your dirty little secret and this continues into adulthood.
What this learns you is how to lie. You have to keep that secret so no one see’s you in your real form. The you that is dirty and filthy that no one will believe or trust.
So when that abused child becomes an adult lying by that stage has such second nature that you continue to do it. Believing that if you don’t those who are blind enough to be your friend will see that real person you may have spent decades hiding. Then they’d run a mile. Why would they like someone who, like you, allowed those things to happen?
They wouldn’t that is what your mind tells you and that is why you continue to lie. You continue to hide the real you.
What you fail to realise is-
Those who do love you or care for you. WILL UNDERSTAND!
Your past won’t let you believe that. You’ve been well trained. You know, because your abuser told you enough times, if you tell them. You’ll be taken away. You’ll be put where all the bad boys go and no one will ever visit you there because your dirty and asked for it all to happen. You led your abuser on. If you’d been a good, clean wee boy then he would never have noticed you.
Then as an adult you hurt those who mean the most to you because you lie to them. You hide YOU. Then they find out what you’ve done, lied to them. They may understand what abuse you suffered and the effects that had on you. They will never understand why you lied, why you could never trust anyone.
So please if your reading this and have suffered abuse. Don’t do what I did and ruin a great relationship. The best I could ever have had with lies.
Trust those you can see love you and be truthful with them always!
As someone with an interest in the care system in the UK. So when there’s a tv programme about it. I watch with great interest.
The programme’s they show only ever show half the story. They show the joy of parents receiving newly adopted children, they show part of the process. Even children looking for adoptive parents.
What they don’t show are the number of siblings that social services split up. Not only are they split on numerous occasions they’re split never to see each other again.
Not only is this wrong its should be against all social services stand for.
There so called caring professional’s should be ensuring that all kids in they’re care are looked after, they should be giving them the information to maintain contact with their siblings. Even if that’s decades later.
Not only is it the right thing for them to do. Morally, ethically in everyway. In my opinion it should also be the legal thing to do.
Why is it not?
It would have the added benefit of saving huge amounts on the mental health budgets in later years. As like me kids losing siblings spend so much time in years later trying to sort out our mental health.
This is the title of a TV programme I just watched. I recorded it on Thursday the 24th of April, on ITV and it was presented by Nicky Campbell.
The programme is showing us the adoption system works in the UK. Nicky Campbell is a man who went through this system as a child and was adopted from a very young age. I hoped for a great piece on the way this system works now and I did get that.
However there were some items that had me screaming at the TV.
At the beginning of the show you are shown a room full with display boards and lots of adults milling around searching said boards. On each board were several biographies of the children who were looking for adoptive parents. I was so glad to see the children themselves were not in the room. However it still looked a bit like a cattle market as prospective adoptive parents went round deciding which child or children they were interested in.
Then we were shown two cases.
1) A couple trying to adopt a child.
One of the first things we see the couple doing is going through a tick list. So detached and cold it seemed. They were asked if they would consider several situations that kids may be in
a) Would you consider a disabled child
b) Would you consider a child who has had drug problems ie. Were born with an addiction because of parental drug use.
c) Would you consider a child who has Foetal Alcohol Syndrome
The list went on and on. They were given three options for each question.
1) Yes we would
2) No we would not
3) Would discuss the situation
We next see them attending an adoption panel hearing.
Quite a formidable process I thought they wait in a room and are then taken into a larger room with a panel, there seemed to be around eight to ten people, who sat there and questioned the couple. They were then asked to go sit back in the waiting room and await the panels decision. I imagine its quite an ordeal for the couple having to go through this. I was scared for them.
The couple were fortunate and told they were able to adopt. The process now coming to a conclusion for them.
Then their social worker comes to their house with two files on two five month old boys.
One of the boys is rejected because social services don’t know who dad is. Have you ever heard anything so wrong?
However the second wee lamb looks promising.
The social worker returns around a week later with pictures of the wee boy and a DVD. The DVD is to show that although the wee lad was addicted to crack cocaine at birth he was getting on really well. During the viewing of the DVD the lady in the couple shows real emotion a positive thing for the wee laddie.
The couple do adopt the wee lad and after a week or so where they get used to each other in the foster parents house. It looks positive for all three of them. A great result from a broken system.
2) Was about a young lad who at the time was in foster care.
This young lad was nine month old and had been having problems finding his forever family. This was because both his parents had mental health problems and there may be a chance the wee lad would have them as he grows up.
The couple who are fostering the wee boy are asked to attend an Adoption Activity Day. This shocked me. The went along to this event attended by fifty kids aged from months old to around nine year old.
The foster parents of this wee man said they felt days like this could look like a cattle market.
The kids are told prior to the event “the strangers you will be meeting are prospective adoptive parents”. This, in my opinion, is so wrong. I always told my kids not to talk to strangers. Why are these kids in the care system any different?
During this event the youngster was approached by several couples. One couple spends a long time with him just to say as they walk away he was to young. Imagine if that happened to one of the older kids. How much of a crush would that give them. Saying oh your not good enough for us. I know they wouldn’t say that but it is how the child would feel.
At this point Nicky Campbell talks with a mental health professional.
This doctor states that not all mental health problems can be inherited but some are. She also said that even with those that are inherited the love of a good family home can reduce the risk.
Then the last you see of this cute wee boy is when the Family Finder from the activity day goes to the foster parents house. To tell them there were four couples interested and three of those looked promising.
Thankfully this lad is to young to realise what is going on. So hopefully will not have any detrimental effects from the way the system treats him or the way some prospective adopters treat him.
They conclude by saying social services are currently meeting with prospective adopters and hope he will have a family of his own soon.
I should say that during this programme I was in awe of what prospective adopters put themselves through to get a child. I was also in awe of the foster parents of the cute wee lad who’s parents had mental health issues.
Both of these couples deserve nothing but respect and admiration for the great work they’re doing and the magnificent effect they are all having on the lives of children who are in the care system.
What I did object to was the way, both in pictures and in person, these children who are in care for various reasons are paraded like animals in a cattle market. Shown to crowds of prospective adopters during activity days. I realise that some kids will come out of these days with adoption as a final result. Can you imagine though being a youngster and attending several of these days and not being chosen?
What effect will that have on children who are already in situations that have destroyed their self worth/ self belief?
Please someone in power do something about a system that can hurt kids like this!!!!!!
Today I discovered, the school my grand daughter attends called my daughter to say my grand daughter is overweight and should attend a fitness programme run by the local council.
She’s 6, seriously, has an under active thyroid and even with that she is a few pounds over weight. They say!
They wonder why our teenagers have self image problems and suffer from eating disorders. I wonder why?
Surely this is the nanny state out of control?